Change is hard. It's hard enough when it's forced upon you by circumstance, but especially hard when you have to be the one to put it into motion. In his book Necessary Endings, author Henry Cloud calls this process pruning.
He adopted the idea of pruning after studying how gardeners care for rose bushes. Cloud learned that "gardeners cut off branches and buds that fall into any of three categories:
- Healthy buds or branches that are not the best ones,
- Sick branches that are not going to get well, and
- Dead branches that are taking up space for the healthy ones to thrive."
I resonate with this idea and the struggle that comes with it after my own experience with newly adopted rose bushes after moving from Montana to South Dakota. Here in South Dakota, all of my flowers grow like crazy. I'm not sure if it's the humidity or the soil, or both, but it has been shockingly different. It's been great!
When I started learning how to care for my new roses, I had such a hard time adopting the idea of pruning both unhealthy bushes and vibrant ones. I was afraid that I would push the unhealthy ones beyond the limit to come back and it just didn't make sense to cut back the ones that were producing. I was especially tempted to leave the thriving ones alone and bask in the new experience of having plants that actually grew without a struggle.
Now after a few years, I have given into the process and have seen the visible results. I have learned that it is in the best interest of the bushes and is vital to their health and success. It's been hard enough to convince myself with my roses but am I willing to believe this can work as well in my own life? I am about to find out.
I have had to realize that some of my goals and pursuits have been blocked by some situations in my life that I simply have no control over. I have tried hard to climb over them and keep pushing on the path I had set out on, but have finally realized that it's time to give up and go a different direction.
In Ecclesiates 3:1-8 this message is very clear:
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven: a time time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.
Because of this, I am shifting my Life Coaching business into coaching through writing. For various reasons, I fell that it is a better fit for me and will help me to live out my purpose while navigating inside some personal handicaps.
With every ending there is a new beginning and I am excited about this new focus. I have been taking a course on writing, especially with a focus on blogging and am finding my voice. My heart is to write about the truths I find in the Bible that help us to develop a whole heart toward God, to learn the importance of living in obedience to Him, and how to walk in the newness of life that comes from a relationship with God through Jesus Christ.
God has brought me through some pretty tough challenges in my life, like so many others, but for different reasons we are often resistant to share those. I know I sure have been, but I am getting to the point in my life where I am ready to testify to the incredible things God has done for me.
Revelation 12:11 explains how we fight against the forces of evil: "by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony." That's what my blog is now going to be all about. It's simply the testimony of how God has worked in my life and how He continues to do so.
So, I am excited to share my newly adapted website along with my "new" blog. Also check out the resource page where I will be sharing books, online sermons, videos, and whatever else I find that I find helpful in my growth process and I hope you do as well.
Cloud says in his book that "Endings are not only part of life; they are a requirement for living and thriving, professionally and personally. Being alive requires that we sometimes kill off things in which we were once invested, uproot what we previously nurtured, and tear down what we built for an earlier time. Refraining, giving up, throwing away, tearing down, hating what we once cherished-all are necessary. Endings are the reason you are not married to your prom date nor still working in your first job. But without the ability to do ending well, we flounder, stay stuck, and fail to reach our goals and dreams...Endings are crucial, but we rarely like them.
There are parts of this process that I don't like, but others that I am excited for. I hope that you will join me as I uproot once again in order to reroot myself into the rich soil of God's plan.